Fundamental change psychology

In the field of human behavior and wellbeing, psychology occupies centerstage. After survival needs are met (safety and sustenance), humans seek fulfillment and contentment (a state of wellbeing). How we seek better wellbeing is unique for each of us. When we are ready, we act; we change. The psychology of change is a fascinating subject and provides reliable insight we can leverage to our advantage.

Fundamental change psychology models show that successful behavior and lifestyle change requires both readiness and motivation.  The transtheoretical, or stages of change model, illuminates readiness. Generally speaking, we pass through very specific stages before we can to move from idea to habit[1] (changed behavior).

Once ready for change, we need to harness motivation and establish supportive structure to execute change. Here, we can apply another change psychology model; the elephant and the rider[2]. The rider represents your rational side (thinker, planner, outcome-focused, vigilant driver but tires easily). The elephant reflects your emotional side (gut feelings, ingrained habits, hates to fail, needs enticement, likes instant gratification). With easy changes, the rider has no trouble directing the elephant. But when in disagreement, the rider is no match for the elephant.

To tackle these disagreements (hard changes) we can tap the rider to analyze how best to tackle the change and we harness the elephant to help us devise a strategy to create a path of least resistance. By devising small steps with measurable goals to stay motivated (elephant moving) we are more likely to follow and remain on this path (rider guiding). A trainer (coach) can help the rider and the elephant travel more quickly and successfully from idea to habit.

(original publication: 18 Apr 2018, The Northeast Georgian Newspaper, Healthy Aging section)